Re-implement N-API RefTracker class using util's ListHead/ListNode

[gabrielschulhof]

Re: #31638 (review)

[gabrielschulhof]

There may actually be a wrinkle with this: src/js_native_api_v8.h is supposed to be usable even without Node.js. Thus, if we want to use Node.js' implementation, we'll likely have to alias the types from src/js_native_api_v8_internals.h so those using N-API outside of Node.js would have to use their own implementation of ListHead/ListNode. Not a showstopper – just something to keep in mind.

[targos]

#31714 stalled. What's the next step?

[gabrielschulhof]

@targos I think given the performance issues uncovered in the PR and the issue I mention above, I think we can close this for now.